Most people would agree that in our very information and knowledge-based culture, we mostly live day-to-day “from the neck up” (unless of course you’re an athlete or dancer).  And few could argue that mental and emotional stress has a physiological effect on the body (e.g. tight jaw, tense muscles, heart palpitations). 

So, a number of activities and treatments exist that use mind-body integration for pain relief and stress management (e.g. yoga, osteopathy, Bioenergetics, Feldenkrais, Network Spinal Analysis, Somatic Experiencing).  It is said that other animals “shake off” the physiological stress response, but not humans (one explanation is here:  http://www.traumahealing.com/somatic-experiencing/art_chapter1.html

But how do you develop a…“mind-body connection”?  After all, it has to become more than just a nice-sounding theory that you agree with.  It has to be a real experience in your life. 

This can be difficult, because on first paying attention to your body (during yoga class, meditation involving body awareness, etc.), you may realize just how UNCOMFORTABLE it actually feels to be in your body!  The good news is a large portion of this ickiness probably comes from (learned) inauthenticity, not living your truth.   Not having the freedom to feel your emotions, move your body as you want to, think your own thoughts.

The good news is, you can learn to use your suffering (physical or emotional) as a gift.  No, I am not preaching at you to make lemonade out of your lemons.  Nor do I think that you simply need to make a “choice” for how to respond to your circumstances as many self-help gurus would have it.  This concept of choice is worth a full post of its own, in the near future.  For now, suffice it to say that as soon as all the preconditions to you being ready to make a choice occur, you go right ahead and do it.  We generally don’t decide to hold ourselves back in life on purpose.  I have more faith in people than that.

I’m using my career dissatisfaction to help others going through similar experiences, and I’ll be honest, most of the time I don’t see the blessings in the pain.  I still don’t understand why it had to go the way it did, and to be honest, attempting to understand that at this point would lead me into the “premature spirituality” trap (“you chose your parents before birth, your soul chose the experiences it ‘wanted’ to have”, etc.)  These meanings can’t be forced or even rationalized, only revealed. 

One of the ways I work towards that revealing, towards a state of being where I can use the suffering as a gift (or at the very least to process it and get through it) is mind-body awareness activities.  For me that is yoga and Network Spinal Analysis.  You can find your own that work for you.  I would go so far as to say that career change (or other life change) can’t take place without mind-body integration.  Hearing your own truth (as told to you by physical pain, stress, uncomfortable emotions) can be difficult.  But once you do, the change that results is lasting. 

What do you think?  Have you had transformative results from mind-body therapies or practices?  Or have you tried some that didn’t seem to do much?  What role do you believe that your body and its messages play in your career/life development?

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